Why do men pull away and hesitate to commit? What can you do if he starts pulling away from you, when you thought everything is going so well, you love each other, your sex life is great and you think everything is going in the right direction?
You even think it’s just a matter of time when he will ask you to marry him. “If he loves me, he’ll want to be with me forever”, right?
But nothing happens, and for some mysterious reason, he seems to start withdrawing himself from you. You get frustrated and angry with him because you have given everything into this relationship, so how can he be so unfair and egotistic?
No matter what hints and signals you give him, he just doesn’t seem to get it! You even start pushing him, asking him why he doesn’t want to commit to you, but listen girl, this is a surefire way to push him away for good.
When You Are Ready To Commit To A Marriage, But He Is Not
You see, most women are ready to commit to a marriage when they have found the man they want to spend the rest of their lives with, but for some reason, most men seem to be phobic to commitment. Strange? Sure it is, but a fact non the less. Making a man commit to a marriage seems to be getting harder and harder these days.
The thing is, and this is something you really need to understand. Men don’t process most of their feelings in their head. If they process them at all, it’s in their gut or heart. Some men never even process their feelings at all. And because of how most men are raised, many of them try to ignore their feelings altogether.
Here is a secret I’m going to tell you about why men pull away, but promise me not to tell the man of your life, OK? Men are very basic creatures, they need to feel unique when they are with you, that nothing compares to them in any way. They really are naive. You need to make him feel special to you, but without manipulation. You should never have to be pushy, or sacrifice your sense of identity by trying to be a woman you are not, just to try to please him. He will sooner or later figure that out, and just pull away from you.
How Can You Stop Him From Pulling Away?
Imagine that inside your man’s heart is this imaginary traffic light. You can even call it a “heart light”. His heart light, just like a traffic light has 3 colors, red, yellow and green.
If he needs to make a major EMOTIONAL decision, he may possibly believe he makes them on an intellectual basis and reasonably, however what REALLY happens is that his heart light, guides and largely controls his actions.
This is why a man can be a whole lot in love with you, but if for some reason his heart light is yellow or red he will not move forward.
It isn’t only disheartening for you, it really is frustrating to him too because he really does love you, however he isn’t intellectually able to process why he’s stuck.
He’ll probably make MANY justifications to both you and to himself. In the majority of instances, he isn’t trying to deceive. He just can’t explain exactly what’s happening even to himself. He just feels that something is wrong. (Yellow or Red Light)
However, there is a way for you to learn and understand what makes him move from green to yellow, yellow to red and the ways to get him back to green again. A guy who is in love AND does have a green heart light really wants to make progress in a relationship and he will practically pick you up and carry you down the aisle.
There is an amazing free video presentation on the GirlGetsRing.com website that I highly recommend you to take a look at now. There you will learn from a man’s (T Dub Jackson’s) point of view exactly why men pull away, how to interpret his traffic signals, and how to turn them from red to green.
So What Options Do You Have Now?
Are you prepared to wait until he comes to his “senses”, one, five, or ten years from now? I’m sure your answer is a big NO, otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this article.
- Do nothing and wait, and wait, only to see him pulling further away
- Take control yourself, learn why he is withdrawing himself from you, and win him back for good
If you pick choice #1, then I wish you all the best and hope he will come to his senses before it is too late. But if you pick choice #2, then you have proved to yourself that you are a fighter, ready to do anything you can to stop him from leaving you.
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